Whew

There has been a possibly very good turn of events on the Alcohol Issue. As I mentioned before, I hadn't been doing any drinking at all since Mike got so upset that one night, and I know Mike noticed because he was acting kind of sheepish. I wanted to bring up the topic again but I also DREADED discussing it. Finally he brought it up by saying I could drink if I wanted to, and I said something gentle and caring such as "You have GOT to be kidding me!"

So our talk started out basically like the last talk, with me pointing out the differences between tipsiness and drunkenness, but this time I asked him some of the questions you asked ME last time: Was he worried I would become an alcoholic? Did HE think I had been drunk and not tipsy? Had he had a bad experience in the past? What WAS worrying him so much??

Then, again pulling from your comments, I asked what did he think would HELP. Would it help to watch movies with drunks in them, for comparison? Would it help to go to a bar and do some people-watching? Would he feel better if I were drinking wine rather than vodka? Should we Google tipsiness/drunkness/alcoholism? What if he tried to drink, to see what it felt like? HOW COULD WE CHANGE THINGS SO THAT I COULD DO WHAT I WANTED WITHOUT HIM CRYING??

So he Googled. Then he made both of us a very large drink, and then another, and we talked about what it felt like and whether he thought it felt like DANGEROUS CRAZY DRUNKENNESS. And then he said he was very, very sorry for being such an idiot. And he said it again the next day when he was no longer tipsy.