Sweethearts. Sweet. Hearts. I've been trying for ages to think of how to explain how much your comments on the baby thing are helping me. I wouldn't have expected them to---er, not because I don't think you're capable of making excellent helpful comments, but because I wouldn't have thought comments would be able to help with this. And yet they DO. They DO help. I think of what you say, and I think of it OFTEN. Not only of your commiseration and understanding, which is like the "spend $100 on our very expensive make-up and we will give you a wee quarter-ounce jar of luxurious face moisturizer" my aunt gave me once, which I have been using for several years on only the most needy occasions---but also your advice and perspective and ideas, which HELP and WORK. I know, right? On the internet? But it's true! I'm still miserable, but I have so many comforting thoughts to turn to.
Anyway. Thanks. I am so grateful, and so lucky to have you.
I'm pretty sure I wasn't any help at all, but you're sure welcome. I love your posts, Constance.
ReplyDeleteI don't think I've had any brilliant insights, but in my experience, the input and sympathy really do help. It just helps to be HEARD, to know that your feelings are valid.
ReplyDeleteMiserable with many comforting thoughts to turn to is a million times better than miserable with no comforting thoughts to turn to. Hugs!
ReplyDeleteThank YOU for the insight into what it feels like to be on the "I want lots of babies!" side of the debate. I always feel like I am being the practical, sensible one in our marriage when I vote for fewer kids (say, four as opposed to six,) but then I read your rationale and your heartfelt explanations and I wonder if maybe I'm the silly one.
ReplyDeleteAwww. I'm sure I'm not the only one here thinking that you do the same for us all the time.
ReplyDeleteThis posts reminds me of my (very, very sweet) aunt who calls me Dear Heart. She's the only one I know who uses that term and I've always loved it when she says it. "Oh dear heart, don't worry..."
I think it's just nice to know that you aren't alone ... that there are other people out there who feel the same way that you do, who experience the same sort of frustration and pain.
ReplyDeleteI think that is what you are relating to. And I thank god for this community we've all created because I know I need it as much as the next gal.
so glad the gang could help you ...
ReplyDeleteOh Constance, I can't blog about this... but I just want to say.
I AM MARRIED TO A CAVEMAN.